I wish you all an exciting and healthy new year! I hope that you set goals for yourself and achieve them ten-fold. My main goal is to follow through with my tasks and to not allow myself to feel pressured or stressed. There are so many things that I didn’t achieve in 2016, but there are even more things that I did. I’m proud of myself for writing as much as I did here and for sparking conversations with like-minded people. My hope is to do even more of that this year.
So stay tuned, because it’s going to be a big year!
To keep up with tradition, I thought I’d post a little something for my favorite Halloween music. Cat Power’s cover of Michael Hurley’s “The Werewolf” has definitely been one of my favorite tunes this October. Hurley’s original track is just as haunting and transcendent. It gives me absolute chills, which is perfect for this Halloween season.
I don’t know about you guys, but this October has been really stressful. Honestly, I feel like I haven’t been able to catch my breath. I’ve just been pushing through, and trying to smile and mask it all. It’s been a heck of a month and I cannot wait until November. Halloween has never been one of my favorite holidays as I feel like it’s the time for childish and outlandish behavior, which gives permission to people to not act like themselves. I didn’t go into October thinking, ‘oh, I’m going to be someone different!’ It kind of snuck up on me and I involuntarily felt like someone else all month long.
Being in disguise kind of takes a toll on you for an entire month. Looking into the mirror and not recognizing the eyes staring back at you is frustrating and kind of heartbreaking because I’ve just been trying to find my way back to myself. Feeling trapped while someone else reaches the surface is surely a recipe for stress and depression.
With all of that said, Cat Power’s “Werewolf” has been a familiar and uncanny anchor for me to feel like myself. Her voice just always clears my view through all of the fog. It’s like I can hear her energy and it jolts me back into reality. There’s a glimmer of myself that I can catch, even if it only last a few minutes. Also, a song about being a werewolf is just another snippet of relatability. Having to transform into something unfamiliar and untameable to wake up not remembering who you were for a moment of time? Yeah, I copy that loud and clear.
I wish I could say Happy Halloween…but to sign off on a positive note, Happy end of October!
I’m a few weeks late, but I just wanted to check in to wish you all a wonderful new year! I’m very optimistic that this year will be full of possibilities and opportunities for you all and myself. I had such an amazing time really getting my blog up and running last year and letting you all get to know me and my taste in television, music, and film…especially television.
I’m working on a couple of posts now to get out soon and I want to keep the momentum going. I love talking about the things that I love and I am glad that some of you have reached out and shared your own tastes in tv, film, and music. It’s a great community to be a part of and we’re only going to get better. Once again, thank you all for sticking around and let’s continue to keep the conversation going!
It’s been such a great year and I just want to wish everyone a great holiday season! Spend it with your family, your friends, and with those that make you feel absolutely happy and amazing. Life’s too short to drain your energy trying to please those that just aren’t wired to be pleased. I’ve spent a bit of my time this year trying to love those that just do not deserve all of my time and energy. And it’s not selfish to say that I’ve given up on trying to be a person that others love to be around. I’m just trying this new thing called ‘loving myself’ and trying my best to be happy. Genuinely happy. If that means that I make others happy in the process, well more power to me!
With all of that said, I made a list of some of the ways that I’ve found happiness this holiday season. Because, you know, the holidays are stressful and the time when a lot of people begin self-evaluating whether or not they are pleased with the way that their life has been going. Evaluating all of the things that they could do better going into the new year. It can be tough, but honestly be happy with yourself and the rest will follow suite. I’ve gone out of my way to do a few things that I know makes me happy.
So here’s my list.
Quality time with family
My family is not the close-knit type of family. We argue and fight a lot and disagree on some of the dumbest things. Most of the time it’s a power struggle to see who can go the longest without having to need the other. There’s a lot of huffing, pouting, and crossing arms in my house. But then again, we love each other enough to the point that we at least make an attempt to spend time with one another. Even when we honestly don’t want to. We compromise on doing things that we can all benefit from – like shopping or seeing movie.
We bicker and sometimes I think that we’re better off just separating from the ties that bind us. Spend enough time apart to find our individual selves. But my family is a part of me and I’m a part of my family. We always get pulled back into each others graces and when the holidays are over, we start the bickering all over again.
Reconnect with friends
I rarely get to spend time with my actual friends throughout the year, but when I do, it’s always amazing. We laugh. We cry. We drink a little. We dance. We act like children. We envision our futures. We get sort of depressed about how old we’re getting. Then we drink a little more and we laugh some more. It’s great. We tease each other, because we’re all moving at different paces throughout the year and sometimes we get ourselves into some weird situations that become the best stories shared over a bottle of Merlot and holiday cookies.
Get into the holiday spirit
Put on a Santa hat and study up on your religion or spirituality during the holiday season. Think about what the holiday really stands for rather than all of the commercial propaganda (which is nice given its limits).
Honestly, my family is huge on celebrating Christmas, but I’m diving more into Kwanzaa territory this year. I mean, why not? Whatever holiday that you celebrate, really get into it. Bring out the ugly Christmas sweaters, the eggnog, the platters of food, and 90’s Mariah Carey tunes. But also remember or learn about your roots and think about why you’re even celebrating the holidays in the first place.
Switch up the food
So for the past six (maybe seven) months, I have been vegetarian. Well, actually more so pescatarian, if we’re into labels. It’s been great in terms of how I feel about my body and health. Unfortunately, the holidays bring on a lot of anxiety in the food department. It’s mostly due to all of the family traditional recipes and lack of effort to adjust to everyone’s individual diets. There’s a ton of meat and heavy calories being served up at my house, but I have put in the effort to include the foods that work for me so that I won’t feel guilty or frustrated about the food that I am/not eating at the table.
Be appreciative of your work and coworkers
I work with a variety of people and personalities and I love it. Sometimes I forget to stop and appreciate those around me and those that support the work that I do. My coworkers and I truly are a team, though. Getting out of bed to come do our jobs keeps the system flowing nicely and the work spread in our different departments and positions. At the end of the day, we’re all just people with our own lives. Stopping to say thanks or taking a few holiday pictures with each other really adds depth to the relationships that we keep at work.
Share some mistletoe
It’s no secret that the holidays bring out the romance in the best of us. Whether or not you’re married or in a committed relationship, spend some time under the mistletoe and embrace the love in the air. Seriously though, what is it about the holidays that make us all lovey-dovey? My friends and I joke that the holidays should be called ‘cuddle season’. A force to size-up Valentine’s Day.
And even if you’re single, there’s no shame in appreciating the sense of kindness that seems to be a special ingredient in the hot cocoa that we’re sipping on. Spread the love.
*Just a note that David is in both of the photos above. Sigh. He understands what I’m talking about.*
I’m truly grateful to be alive this year. With all that’s going on in this world and with all of the people who are sad, sick, away from their loved ones, angry, confused, etc – I am happy to wake up and say thank you to whoever that’s watching over us. Just to be alive and well.
We live in times where we can easily let the minutes just fly by and forget how precious they are. I say this because this is what I used to do with television. I’d use it as a tool to forget that I am a part of this world and that I am important. That I matter. I used it to mask my true feelings about various situations. I used it to move along the time until something BETTER would come up.
Nowadays, I am realizing that I am not hiding from anything, but rather enjoying television because I love it. Because it actually makes me feel alive and important. It’s truly a growing and changing medium and has a special connection to billions (maybe trillions of people). It’s what keeps many of us together. It’s what keeps me motivated to be better and do better things. Hopefully one day I will have much more control over/with the growth of this amazing medium.
With all of that said, I wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving! I see it not as a day of all of the food that we can consume without blinking (I’m the only vegetarian in my family so – not much anyway). But, I see it as a day of reflection. To mark the opportunity to say thanks – for whatever we’ve accomplished. For whatever that makes us happy.
If you’re in the mood for television, like I aways am – watch episode “Pangs” from the fourth season of Buffy, the Vampire Slayer. It’s truly hilarious and a great holiday special. I have a whole blog post coming up on Buffy early in the new year! So stay tuned!